Melbourne, Australia – A new study challenges the long-held belief that monogamous relationships are superior to non-monogamous ones when it comes to satisfaction. The study, published in The Journal of Sex Research, analyzed data from nearly 25,000 individuals and found no significant differences in relationship or sexual satisfaction between those in monogamous relationships and those in consensually non-monogamous arrangements.
Led by Joel R. Anderson of La Trobe University, this review is the first of its kind to comprehensively compare satisfaction levels across different relationship structures. The findings suggest that the way relationships are conducted, rather than whether they are monogamous or non-monogamous, plays a more significant role in determining satisfaction.
Traditionally, Western society has placed monogamy on a pedestal as the ideal relationship structure. This belief has been deeply ingrained in cultural messages, religious teachings, and even healthcare practices. Non-monogamous individuals often face stigma, discrimination, and assumptions that their relationships are less stable or fulfilling.
The research reviewed studies conducted between 2007 and 2024 in Western countries like the United States, Canada, and Australia. These studies included diverse participants across different sexualities and gender identities, although the majority were white. Various non-monogamous relationship structures were examined, such as polyamory, open relationships, swinging, and “monogamish” arrangements.
Overall, the analysis found that both monogamous and non-monogamous individuals reported similar levels of relationship and sexual satisfaction. Surprisingly, individuals in “monogamish” relationships reported slightly higher relationship satisfaction than those in strictly monogamous relationships. Additionally, polyamorous individuals and swingers reported higher sexual satisfaction compared to their monogamous counterparts.
One unexpected finding was that non-monogamous individuals rated trust higher than monogamous individuals, challenging the common assumption that non-monogamous relationships lack trust or commitment. The study authors suggest that managing multiple relationships in non-monogamous structures may enhance important relationship skills like communication and openness.
The results of this study have significant implications for therapists, counselors, and healthcare professionals working with individuals in non-monogamous relationships. Understanding that non-monogamous relationships can be just as satisfying and fulfilling as monogamous ones is crucial for providing effective support and care.
While the study highlights the satisfaction levels across different relationship structures, it does not imply that one style is superior to another. Ultimately, personal preferences, values, and needs should guide individuals in choosing the relationship structure that best fits them. The findings serve as an invitation to challenge assumptions about relationships and consider what truly contributes to satisfaction and fulfillment in personal connections.